Post Op

Well, I’m finally home. It’s been 6 days since my surgery and 11 days since I was first admitted to the hospital. What was it like to spend two weeks in the hospital? Frustrating. People always encourage you to get plenty of rest when they hear you’re in the hospital, but it’s almost impossible. I was constantly woken up so that the nurses could take vital signs, give me medicine, administer Heparin shots, replace my TPN, administer IV antibiotics, etc. Once I was woken up, it was hard to go back to sleep because of the pain and discomfort.

But I’m getting ahead of myself. Let’s start with the day of surgery, which was filled with anxiety. My husband and my parents came to the hospital, and in the hours leading up to the surgery, it was obvious that we were trying to talk about anything other than the fistula in the room. Of course, there was a delay in the OR so that just made us more anxious. When they finally took me back to pre-op, I was surprised by the number of people prepping for surgery. The large room was filled with smaller rooms divided by curtains, each with someone awaiting surgery; it was like horses in a stable.

When the anesthesiologist finally said they were ready for me, the atmosphere around me quickly changed. Up until this point, I was nervous and my family remained calm. But when my husband and my parents gave me a hug before the doctor took me away, they each started tearing up. This time, I was the calm one. I’ve spent the last few months in chronic pain, dodging surgery as if it were reserved for the lost causes. Now, headed to the OR, I was at peace with what needed to happen. I know that God has promised good to me and I put my trust in Him.

Three hours later I woke up, back in the stable, and I immediately asked for my husband. Matt came and held my hand as the nurses gave me pain medicine and monitored my vitals. Eventually my parents were allowed back too, and it was clear that we were all so relieved it was finally over, not just the surgery, but this chapter in our lives. When I was finally coherent enough to notice my surroundings, I realized that I was hooked up to more things than you can imagine. I had two drains coming out of my stomach, a catheter, and antibiotics and TPN attached to my PICC line. Luckily I didn’t end up needing an ileostomy bag, which was my biggest concern. In fact, when I first woke up from surgery, they said I repeatedly asked if I had a bag and they kept reassuring me that I didn’t.

When they took me back to my room, I couldn’t focus on anything but the pain. Every hour I complained to my nurse, so I didn’t get much sleep. The doctor finally prescribed me stronger pain medication and I slept most of the next day. Once they removed the catheter, getting up to go to the bathroom was like untangling a web of tubes and cords. I’m so thankful that Matt stayed with me all weekend to help through those first few challenging nights.

I started my recovery with baby steps, literally. I walked from the bed to the bathroom, then I walked from the bed to the nurses’ station outside my room, and finally I walked the entire floor. Four days after my surgery, I was ready to walk out the door. The staff removed the drains and PICC line and I was no longer physically attached to anything. I won’t describe what it felt like to have a tube pulled out of your stomach, but let’s just say I shouted something incomprehensible.

And now I’m continuing my recovery at home. I can’t lift the girls or drive for two weeks, which is difficult. It’s hard not to be able to get up and go like I used to, but I’m dealing with it. The reality is that I’m blessed to have had a competent surgeon, a successful resection, and so far, a smooth recovery. On discharge day, while I was being wheeled out of the hospital by a nurse to meet my husband, this reality hit me like a ton of bricks. One of the nurses who took care of me all week, who brightened my day with stories of her grandson, who made my bed for me and brought me fresh water to make me more comfortable, and who cheered me on while I slowly walked the hallway, shared with me that she too has Crohn’s disease. She was misdiagnosed for almost 10 years and by the time they correctly diagnosed her, the disease had progressed so much that it almost killed her. She had five surgeries, including one to remove her entire colon, resulting in a permanent colostomy bag. I was stunned. How could this woman take care of me all week and not share this sooner? Why didn’t she remind me that things could always be worse? I don’t have answers to these questions, but I do know this: I’m thankful for her patience and compassion. I’ll continue making baby steps with her in mind.

The good, the bad, and the fistula

I’ll start with the good. This weekend we finally celebrated Easter. Because I was in the hospital on Easter day, we couldn’t enjoy our normal family traditions: church, food, family, fun. The weather was so beautiful this past weekend that we decided to have an Easter “re-do”. We had an egg hunt for Mackenzie, who quickly found all of the eggs. Once she realized there was a piece of chocolate in each of them, she started unwrapping all of the candy. We’re still rationing that chocolate, so next year I need to take a more diversified approach to filling plastic eggs.

We also gave the girls their Easter baskets filled with toys. Mackenzie enjoys taking care of her baby doll everyday, so she loved her new play diapers and bottles. Lexi was more interested in the basket than the toys, of course. We ended the day with a ham and all the fixings. I’m so thankful that we celebrated Easter as a family, even if it was three weeks late.

Now for the bad, which incidentally is also the fistula: I’m in the hospital again. It’s only been three weeks since my last visit, but here I am, back at Johns Hopkins. And it’s all thanks to the fistula, which by the way, is a word I didn’t even know existed until a month ago. Nevertheless, the fistula from my bowel to my bladder is causing me trouble. It seems that bowel is starting to leak into my bladder, which has created an infection and is causing me pain. I’m having surgery tomorrow to remove the fistula and resect my colon, as well as remove about a foot of inflamed intestine. The surgery will take about three hours. My doctor will attempt to do it laparoscopically, but she might need to open me up if things look worse on the inside than she anticipated. I will be in the hospital recovering for 3-5 days and then I’ll continue my recovery at home for 2-3 weeks.

Of course, I’m anxious about the surgery, but I’m also excited. I feel like I have hope for returning to a normal life. My doctor said I should look at this as a fresh start. She is removing the disease and then I will have a normal GI tract. I haven’t heard the words “normal” and “GI tract” in the same sentence in… well, let’s not reminisce. In addition, the Remicade infusions could prevent future inflammation and complications. My doctor said most patients are surprised by the boost in energy they experience after surgery, and that most of us don’t realize that the fatigue we experience is a symptom of the disease, not a side effect of everyday life.

I almost cried as she told me all of this. When chronic pain has become your normal, it takes away a piece of your spirit. I’m a Christian, so I have faith. I’m an optimist, so I have hope. But my spirit, what distinguishes me from everyone else, has diminished some. I don’t say this out of self-pity or loathing, but in sincerity. When you spend enough time watching your daughter play outside while you sit inside on the couch, it affects you. When your daughter sees you on the couch and without hesitation touches your stomach and says “Mommy tummy hurts”, it affects you. And when your daughter prays for you each day and speaks healing over you, saying, “Mommy all better,  bye-bye doctor”, it nearly crushes you. I’m lucky that my girls are young and won’t remember any of this, but I will. And here’s what I’m choosing to take with me:

I’ve received exceptional health care during my time in the hospital. The nurses are friendly, attentive, and patient, and the doctors are competent and thorough, with a good bedside manner. The staff here truly wants me to succeed.

I have a great support system at home and at work. My family, friends, and coworkers reach out to me on a daily basis, offering prayer, support, and help in any way they can. They make this feel like less of an inconvenience, which helps me to relax.

My older daughter, Mackenzie, is more empathetic than I would expect a 2 1/2 year old to be. She holds my hand and rubs my back when I’m in pain, she hugs me when she can tell I need one, and most importantly, she prays for me. I never imagined a scenario in which I would rely on my daughter instead of the other way around, but I’m glad to see the kind of person she’s becoming, one who cares about people.

Lastly, I’m stronger than I realized. I’ve spent much of my time in the hospital alone, and that’s okay. Matt still has to work, the girls need to go to school, and life goes on. I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting in this blog, which has helped me more than it’s helped others. I look forward to looking back on these posts when I’m healthy, with a humble appreciation of the simple things we all take for granted.

 

 

An ode to solid food

Oh, how I’ve missed solid food. It’s a relationship I didn’t appreciate until my GI tract came between us. If I thought I’d be good at it, I’d write an ode to all the foods I’ve missed these past two weeks. (Obviously it would start and end with donuts.) Now I don’t have to leave the room when my family sits down for dinner, I can enjoy my husband’s cooking. I don’t begrudge preparing a snack for Mackenzie, and I can even laugh about the night I almost licked a peanut butter cup in desperation. It’s amazing how much returning to my regular diet makes me feel like a normal person again.

Clearly, the results of my CT scan on Monday were good. The abscess is gone, which means I can resume an IBD-friendly diet. I spoke with my dietitian and we’re going to cycle down my TPN over the next two weeks and then remove the PICC line. My doctor is setting up Remicade treatments, and I hope to be on the road to remission soon enough.

The surprising news is that there is a fistula forming between my bowel and bladder, which isn’t good. My doctor forwarded my CT scan to Johns Hopkins and I’m waiting for them to determine next steps. Two weeks ago this would have consumed my thoughts, but not now. It is possible that I will need surgery to remove the fistula, but then it’s gone forever; that’s good news. Studies have proven that sometimes Remicade can dissolve a fistula; that’s great news. Either way I have a problem that can be resolved; that’s even better news. I can’t let myself become overwhelmed by “what if”; I have to focus on “what is”.

Recently my GI gave me a pep talk of sorts. He said there are generally two types of Crohn’s patients, those with a mild or moderate form of the disease and those whose disease has begun to perforate, creating complications. He said I need to accept that I’m in the latter group, which means the occasional abscess, fistula, and Lord knows what else, but all we can do is resolve one problem at a time. I realize this might not sound like much of a pep talk, but he reminded me to “be still” and take one day at at time. When I was in the hospital I felt like I had a laundry list of problems and the road to recovery seemed overwhelming. But guess what? I was out in a week with two less problems than I had before. In other words, it might take time, but I’ll get there. And in the meantime, I’m eating peanut butter cups.

 

Surprise hospital visit

To say this past week has been overwhelming is an understatement. I went to the emergency room last Thursday because of lower abdominal pain that was so severe I couldn’t walk upright. I knew that it was related to my Crohn’s disease, and I thought I would be prescribed a steroid and sent home. Instead, I was admitted to the hospital.

After blood work and a CT scan, I discovered that my bowel was severely inflamed and I have an abscess on my right side that has created an infection in my body. I also have a small fistula. (If you don’t know, a fistula is when the ulcers within the intestine turn into tracts and create an abnormal connection between the intestine and another part of the body.) I was given antibiotics for the infection and after three days, I was transferred to Johns Hopkins Hospital.

When I got to Johns Hopkins, a team of doctors discussed treating the abscess with antibiotics, draining it, or surgically removing it. Since it’s not a good idea to perform surgery during active inflammation, they’re currently focused on draining the abscess; I’m waiting to hear when this will happen.

In the past four days I’ve been poked and prodded for more reasons than I can remember. I haven’t been allowed to eat or drink anything since I was admitted to the hospital, and I’m hungry, like VERY hungry. Most importantly, I miss my girls. I miss them most at night. I miss giving them a bath while singing songs and watching them play with toy ducks and seahorses. I miss towel drying their hair and helping them pick out donut-covered pajamas. I miss the smell of Mackenzie’s apple-scented hair detangler. I miss curling up with the girls in bed and reading a good book. And I miss holding hands as a family and praying before bed time. This is when I feel like the disease is taking something from me. This is when I feel like everything around me keeps going while I play catch up.

Thank God for my husband, here with me now, asleep in the uncomfortable chair next to my bed.